What's your love language?

So I hear Valentine’s Day is around the corner. We don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day here. No flowers. No chocolates. No cards. Nothing. Lacking in love? Absolutely not. I sometimes feel like it’s a Hallmark holiday. I don’t blame people for hating it. There’s so much pressure to impress your significant other that people forget what they’re celebrating. Flowers and chocolates it is not.

Shortly after I got married, my mother-in-law spoke to me about a book called “The 5 Love Languages“ by Gary Chapman. While what this author has written can be a lifesaver for some relationships, it really is a profound insight into who you are!

I learned this was the reason why (while we were dating) B said I was “clingy” and claimed that I would “hang on him,” even when he was eating. I was SO hurt and I didn’t even know why. I look back at it now and laugh. Only after reading this book did I realize that I was loving him in my love language and not in his.

	This language uses words to affirm other people.
	For these people, actions speak louder than words.
	For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift.
	This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.
	To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.

I learned my love language is Physical Touch. To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. Boy is this true for me! Give me a hug. Kiss me. Touch my arm. Caress the back of my palm. Anything “touchy” equals love for me. The flipside of this is that I don’t like my face touched. I just can’t handle it!

I believe my husband’s love language is Acts of Service. What makes him feel loved? One of his favorite meals, a foot rub, having his laundry done, or even getting him a cookie from the kitchen. While this may sound like me doing a lot of running around (well, ok it is), I’ve come to learn that these acts of love are what make him feel loved. Luckily for us, neither one of our love languages is Receiving Gifts. We are pretty down-to-earth (but, who am I kidding–we both love gifts!) and gifts don’t necessarily equate love for us.

When I read this book, it didn’t have a website dedicated to it, but now it does. It even has a short questionnaire that will help you determine which is your love language. This would make a perfect gift for yourself, a loved one, or even a single lady out there trying to navigate the dating scene.

Please tell me which is YOUR love language in the comments section. I’d love to know!

What’s your love language?

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