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What’s your love language?

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So I hear Valentine’s Day is around the corner.  We don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day here.  No flowers.  No chocolates.  No cards.  Nothing.  Lacking in love? Absolutely not.  I sometimes feel like it’s a Hallmark holiday.  I don’t blame people for hating it.  There’s so much pressure to impress your significant other that people forget what they’re celebrating.  Flowers and chocolates it is not.
Shortly after I got married, my mother-in-law spoke to me about a book called “The 5 Love Languages“ by Gary Chapman.  While what this author has written can be a lifesaver for some relationships, it really is a profound insight into who you are!
I learned this was the reason why (while we were dating) B said I was “clingy” and claimed that I would “hang on him,” even when he was eating.  I was SO hurt and I didn’t even know why.  I look back at it now and laugh.  Only after reading this book did I realize that I was loving him in my love language and not in his.

This language uses words to affirm other people.
For these people, actions speak louder than words.
For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift.
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.
To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.


I learned my love language is Physical Touch.  To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. Boy is this true for me!  Give me a hug.  Kiss me.  Touch my arm.  Caress the back of my palm.  Anything “touchy” equals love for me.  The flipside of this is that I don’t like my face touched.  I just can’t handle it!

I believe my husband’s love language is Acts of Service.  What makes him feel loved?  One of his favorite meals, a foot rub, having his laundry done, or even getting him a cookie from the kitchen.  While this may sound like me doing a lot of running around (well, ok it is), I’ve come to learn that these acts of love are what make him feel loved.  Luckily for us, neither one of our love languages is Receiving Gifts.  We are pretty down-to-earth (but, who am I kidding–we both love gifts!) and gifts don’t necessarily equate love for us.

When I read this book, it didn’t have a website dedicated to it, but now it does.  It even has a short questionnaire that will help you determine which is your love language.  This would make a perfect gift for yourself, a loved one, or even a single lady out there trying to navigate the dating scene.

Please tell me which is YOUR love language in the comments section.  I’d love to know!

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Lisette Harrington writes about her love of fitness, beauty favorites, home décor, and her two pups, Chip and Daisy. When she's not blogging, gardening, or working out, she is helping medical spas and aesthetic elevate their brands and websites at Mila Design Co.

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  2. Christin Theiss says

    I definitely want to make a post like this! ill mention you for sure! Mine would be Quality Time & my boyfriends would be Acts of Service! I can’t wait to read this, and find out more about this author! Thanks for this great post! <3 Christin

  5. Brianna says

    Mine is definitely Physical Touch, and my husband’s is Acts of Service! We went through the website earlier this year, and it’s definitely made a difference! It’s so helpful in understanding why we do or say the things we do when it comes to feeling loved. :)

  9. Nadine Mathews says

    I love that book! Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation are the love languages I speak in. I think Acts of Service is my husbands, I should have him take the quiz online.

  11. Andi says

    I just took the little quiz on the website. Mine is “quality time” but “receiving gifts” is a close second. This doesn’t surprise me! I suspect that my husband’s would be “acts of service.” I should probably read the book!

  13. Rita says

    I loved this post
    This really makes sense, sometimes we forget that people are different and the way they see love is different too… So what for some is a big proof of love for the other maybe is not and when this happens and we can’t understand the other person feelings we may think that the other don’t share the same feelings but the true is they do have the feelings but they express it in a diferent way. So this can really helps understanding ourselves and understanding the others to give and receivr more love… I will defenetly do the questionnaire to see which type of love I am and I will also read the book. Thanks for share this :)
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  14. Shana Scott says

    Hubby and I also have the book! We have the daily devotional version. Mine is quality time with acts of service pulling a very close second! his is definitely physical touch! a must read for sure!!

  16. Jen says

    We don’t celebrate valentines day either and no its not for lack of love :) I like the way you put that I would must prefer the surprise random bouquet of flowers or chocolate or a sweet letter after a hard week. These mean so much more than a day people are “supposed” to buy something for each other or go out to dinner. Anyhow, I have read that book but it has been awhile. My love languages are acts of service and quality time.

    Jen

  18. jess says

    I just randomly found your blog (and became a follower!). My boyfriend and I both read this book over the summer and got TOTALLY different answers – I’m quality time and acts of service <3

    jess
    Wanderlusted

  19. Veronica Hill says

    Ha! My hubby and I are the opposite of you guys :) He is touch and I am acts of service. We loved that book, it was so helpful as we were engaged, and you are so right, it really is for anyone, not just married people :)

  21. Bekah @ re·solve says

    This is such a great resource and has the potential to salvage so many relationships! My hubby and I are really fortunate to have the same languages – primarily physical touch and quality time. That makes things easy for us. We do re-quiz/evaluate every so often just as a reminder and to see if things have changed. It’s always a fun talk.

  22. Sarah Collier says

    I am a huge fan of the Five Love Languages! I think keeping in mind our partner’s love language only facilitates a better relationship and marriage. Sarah @ Tobemrscollier.blogspot.com

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