A smart man once told me to “fake it till you make it.” That man was my beloved and late voice teacher, David. There was usually a point in time in my voice lessons where I didn’t feel confident. Maybe I wasn’t able to change registers while keeping my voice in “the mask,” the most essential ability of the classical singing technique. Or maybe I “ran out of air” while holding a long note (the second most important ability to classical singing–breathing!). Fake it ’til you make it, Lisette. But Dave. I’m a horrible liar.
Have you ever done (or attempted to do) something challenging and often feel like giving up? ‘Course you have. What “conversation” did you have with yourself to get you out of the funk? Or were you even able to “talk to yourself?” You all know I’m not just talking crazy talk here. (Or am I?)
Whenever I doubt myself, I lose confidence. Will my left leg shake as I’m singing? Will I take a deep enough breath to sustain this long phrase in this song? Will I forget the words? Oh crap…how did it go again? Crap, crap, crap. I’m next. Whenever I believe in myself I exude confidence. I have this. Breathe in. Exhale. Repeat. Take the stage…it belongs to you! Whenever I start doubting myself but tell myself “You can do this!” my confidence returns.
Did I lose you? Think about it. It makes sense. Your mind is more powerful than you know. Sometimes I can honestly feel my eyes gloss over as I retract deeper and deeper inside my mind. Sometimes when a person is talking to me. Horrible. I know. I don’t mean to do it, but sometimes it just happens. Actually, it almost always happens if you have a monotonous voice. Oh, wait. Back to the point.
Your mind is more powerful than you think. Just like I can “snap” myself out of tuning out a person talking, I can most of the time snap myself out of doubting myself.
Nowadays my confidence isn’t linked to singing, as I haven’t really sung in a year. (Friends from back home who read this…please don’t be angry!). My confidence nowadays is linked to how I look. And, as much as I hate to admit it, this blog. I’d be lying to say that I haven’t put many hours into this blog. Actually, I will never admit to how many hours I’ve actually put in. Don’t bother asking. I won’t tell ;)
So, the next time you start doubting yourself, just tell yourself that little line. Fake it ’til you make it. Because you know what? The only person who can change their confidence is you. And once you take a hold of it and own it, you will look better than any
overpriced amazing outfit on the runway.
What does confidence mean to you?