I made this freebie today for a few reasons.
+ Eleanor Roosevelt is an inspirational woman
+ I struggle with criticism
I’m not talking about the blatant criticism that completely off-base. Some people may find that offensive. You know, people trying to take you down by grabbing at straws. That’s not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about constructive criticism. It’s really something that needs to be handled with finesse and sophistication. Some people are naturally eloquent and careful with how they deliver their constructive criticism. Others are a little rougher with their delivery, despite having good intentions at heart.
I tend to feel inferior and often times a deep self-loathing when I’m faced with rough constructive criticism. I’m so hard on myself (and others) so it’s hard for me to take criticism on top of the critic inside my own head. It’s a struggle I have and something I’m working to improve in myself: being easier on myself and on others.
Sometimes I think it’s because I’m a first-born, and my parents were hardest on me since I was the first (and only child) for two years. Then, as the three of us got older, I was left in charge over my two younger siblings. I had to be the parent when my parents weren’t there (which wasn’t often) but it also extended to whenever they weren’t within sight, such as huge family gatherings where they couldn’t keep an eye out at all times. I became good, a little too good at that job.
I have to keep reminding myself to ease up on that inner control-freak. The one who feels angry when she’s powerless. The one who feels defeat when she’s criticized.